No, my identity is not found in my kids. But it’s not found in myself, either.

So many times, moms are told that they need to “keep their identity” after kids. Even going as far as to “find themselves again”.


Do you know how many years I wasted feeling bitter and jealous and resentful and depressed believing this lie?

My identity is found in Christ. Not in my kids, no. But not in myself, either.
The Bible tells me to die to myself daily.
Jesus sanctifies us, and honestly uses kids and marriage to do that.
He teaches us to be selfless as moms, when so many other lives literally are dependent upon you.

I didn’t lose myself when I became a mom.
I found another part of who Christ wants me to be. He gave me little disciples to teach and shepherd and mold. Which is amazing and terrifying and crazy and messy and sanctifying all rolled into a big family.

Is it hard, yes. But hard is not the same as bad. I don’t think any part of sanctification is easy. But it is absolutely beautiful. I pray God allows me to stop and ponder all the moments in my heart to cherish. Even the hard ones.

I am so, so thankful He has entrusted me with this beautiful, crazy crew.

Published by Danielle Barker

Hi, I’m Danielle. Momma of five who survives every day with Jesus. I'm somewhere between a crunchy and silky mom. I love theology and relating it to motherhood. Coffee and running keep me sane. ♥️ Best advice? Make your home the place you want to be.

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